Empathy: Healing the Awkward Heart

Have you ever been “outside” of the group? Gifted kids feel outside of the norm, because quite frankly, they are.  As fierce allies to gifted learners it is up to parents and teachers to help heal the awkwardness they feel using empathy.  This vlog offers strategies for using empathy to heal to help gifted learners navigate their differences and feel good about who they are.


Stewardship: 4 Strategies Teachers (and Parents) Can Leverage To Become a Fierce Ally to Gifted Learners

Stewardship is the ability to hold something in trust for another.

For our family, servant leadership plays out every weekend when we take our motorcycles to the mountains to ride.  As the most experienced rider, my husband is the steward of our time, talent, and resources.  He knows everyone’s riding level and chooses trails that will challenge, but not frustrate the family.  He has chosen the best bike for each person based on their size, riding ability, and the type of riding we are doing that day.  It is a joy to watch our son’s take care of one another on the trail and the teamwork and collaboration they demonstrate are beautiful.  If one goes over, the other is there immediately to check on the person and give them a hand up.  Just this weekend my teenager lost his sprocket going about 30 miles an hour.  His back tire locked up and he lost control of the bike and crashed but had no major injuries.  It was a freak accident and we were in the middle of nowhere with a disabled bike and the potential for a great lesson in stewardship.

Time-  In this case, time was on our side.  It was still early in the day and although it was chilly, we had lots of daylight left and plenty of time to plan on how we were going to fix the bike and get everyone back to the staging area.  Time was our friend because there were no major injuries and the day was young.

Talent-  My husband was the only person with the talent necessary to fix the sprocket so we could ride out.  Although he was the only one with the mechanical talent to fix the bike, the rest of us had work to do too.  My oldest was the muscle and helped with the physical aspects of fixing the bike.  My youngest son and I were in charge of finding the missing sprocket and the bolt along the trail.

Resources- The necessary resources was the biggest challenge we faced.  We were about 3o minutes from the truck, which held most of the tools we needed to fix the bike.  With only 3 bikes that were working, my husband took my oldest back to the truck to get both tools to either fix the bike or rope to tow it back.  I stayed in the mountains with my youngest, to watch over the bikes while they were gone.

I am happy to report that we worked together to get the bike off the mountain.  Gravity was on our side, and we jerry-rigged a solution to get the disabled bike back down to the truck.  We relied on leadership from our most experienced rider/mechanic and the talents of the other people within the family.

Servant leaders are stewards of their gifted student’s time, talents, and resources.  Below are 4 stewardship strategies teachers (and parents) can leverage to become a fierce ally to the gifted learners they serve.

Holding all aspects of the learning in trust- Holding all aspects of the learning in trust means the teacher oversees the student’s time,
resources, space, learning, etc in the utmost confidence of the learner. This requires a great deal of trust because they must be able to match the needs of the student with the content they are teaching.  This requires an ability to individualize.  In future articles, I will share how technology can transform learning and help a teacher differentiate lessons for all learners.  Teachers need to be willing to give control of the learning experiences over to their students and then respond to the unique need of each learner.  This approach empowers the student with an appropriate level of freedom to explore his or her own learning objectives.

Foster joint decision making- Servant teachers exercise stewardship by fostering joint decision making.  Sharing the power over decisions creates a shared passion for the outcome of the process. Shared thinking takes place and the experience benefits from the input of both the teacher and the student.  This mutuality is important because it balances out the learning experience.

Give the students what they need, no more, no less- When practiced, the teacher offers guidance for the students but does not take on the learning. The teacher one source of learning, but brings together the best human, print, and digital resources for the student to make meaning of the content and make it their own.

Be a fierce steward of educational time, student’s talent, and classroom resources-  As a fierce steward of time, the gifted teacher might assess a student’s prior knowledge and design curriculum around the student’s passions and interests because they have already mastered within the prescribed curriculum.  As a steward of talent, the teacher must assess each student’s abilities and match the content to the learner’s individual needs.  As a steward of resources, the teacher must assess the needs of each learner to bring forward the best human, print, and digital resources to meet each child’s needs.

When the teacher has a servant’s heart and puts the student’s needs first, students can reach their full potential.  In the comments below, or on your favorite social media using the hashtag #giftedresources, please share how you are stewarding the time, talents, and resources of the gifted students in your life.

Foresight: 3 Strategies Teachers (and Parents) Can Leverage To Become a Fierce Ally to Gifted Learners


Foresight is the is the ability to know where you want to go, but also possessing the tools and vision to get there.


Welcome Mandie, a former gifted student of mine, who is contributing to this series by sharing her experience with foresight.  You may remember last week I shared the story of how I coached Mandie toward discovering her dream.  Foresight is a characteristic related to conceptualizing, but distinct in that it is the ability to know where you want to go, but also possessing the tools and vision to get there.  Mandie shares below how she made her dream a reality.


I am so lucky to have Dr. Brandi Maynard as my mentor, our time together turned out to be the catalyst of setting my dreams to life. The concept of foresight as described in Dr. B’s dissertation research was “the ability to see the likely outcome of the situation” and is related to her blog last week about conceptualization.

During our coaching session, I was given the gift of foresight. When talking me through my dreams, my desires, and most importantly helping me find my ‘why’ I had a true moment of understanding and excitement when I learned another way. Dr. B was so engaged in what I was saying, and with each answer, she had a follow-up question that continued to lead me to ideas that truly excited me.I had already been accepted into my doctoral program, but was so hesitant to spend another four years in school and continued to question my decision.

Prior to my time with Dr. B, I believed continuing in school was the only way I could make sure I was making a positive impact in the life of online students. I have seen students, parents, and teachers feeling so isolated in the online environment, and I want to expand upon creating positive virtual communities because I see how it motivates at-risk students to actually want to graduate high school. I have seen these strategies change lives and I wanted to expand this knowledge to other schools that may be struggling with cultivating the joy needed to support students. Dr. B saw that passion in me and continued to pull threads until we could both see the end goal of what would be known as hello edu.

With the inspiration from Dr. B and a new buzz of motivation and energy- it was time to get to work. This was not just a chat about dreams or career adviceit was followed up with concrete steps that were needed to make this dream a reality. I started to brainstorm a company name that very day as I was reading through the business plan examples and researching the licensing I would need to obtain. Without the manageable bite-sized pieces, it would have been too overwhelming. However, when I ran into hurdles, I would go back to the notes she sent me after our call, and I looked at her email with the guide to making a business plan. With each obstacle, I could look back and feel a sense of calm by knowing that this will work out because there is a guide I can work from if I start to feel lost.

This has made the process enjoyable because I could see this as a series of steps that needed to be completed instead of an abstract dream. The big picture of hello edu is to help others and make the world a better place, and I think it is beautiful that I would not have gone this route without Dr. B’s guidance and servant leadership.

Thank you to Mandie for sharing her story…I am very proud of her.  Servant leaders can help gifted learners plot out the necessary steps required to reach their envisioned future.  Below are three foresight strategies teachers (and parents) can leverage to become a fierce ally to the gifted learners they serve.

Anticipate the unique needs of the student- Anticipating the unique needs of the student is an intuition a teacher possesses that knows just the right time to introduce a concept so it connects to previous learning.  Timing is everything!

Possess the intuition to know when to turn the learning over to the student- Having the intuition to know when to turn the learning over to the kids is the ability to release control of the learning at the moment when the child can drive it themselves. They no longer need you and will do well on their own.

Promote out of the box thinking while keeping the end in minds- Promoting out of the box thinking while keeping the end in mind allows the teacher to question the learner to move the understanding forward while keeping the goal of the learning in mind.

When used together, these two characteristics will help students dream big dreams and reach those goals through a thoughtful, step by step process.  Servant leaders are the catalyst in this dream to reality process

In the comments below, or on your favorite social media using the hashtag #giftedresources, please share stories of students you know who are reaching their dreams.